through the storm.. literally

‘when it rains it pours’

‘the domino effect’

I can go on and on with the sayings when things go wrong .

But has it happened to you ? when one thing directly after another/ next minute something else.

Today was one. after spending much time through out the day, trying to clear my mind and read motivational articles. After having some recent pitt moments. Smd determined to smile .

End of they day. I had a dispute, caught in a storm before a tornado then to find my home flooding. Occurring all within a 45 minute time period.I just had to sit down & think. really ?I can just quit and deal tomorrow, clean up now , or just bitch about it and get it out.

Is it Karma, am I having the struggles because I need to change my ways ? is it god, they say he only gives you what he knows I can handle and it is my turn to be tested for my weakness in controlling emotions and temper ? I honestly don’t know .

Or am I just freaking out because I am also a worry wart ,who over thinks every friggin thing?

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A family in today’s world

I am a working mother ..

We have a large family , boys & girls  and both work full time and I also attend night school to advance my nursing career.

Boy, I can say that raising teenagers, preteens,and the in between age groups is not easy . I think we can all say a ‘ Amen’.

What makes it even harder is social media, peer pressure, communication and trying to compromise  the lifestyle of ‘ back in my day’ & 2015 perception of how to behave and definition of ignorance and respect.

I realized, we truly don’t begin to learn or grow up until we become parents. We learn from our children when needing to use self control or pick a battle just as we are told do with our spouse. We learn more about ourselves and honestly about what love is and how to love. I don’t just mean unconditional love to a child but also loving your spouse, building the team foundation and solidity.

majority of my husband and I’s debates are created when we are trying to direct/discipline a child . We are 2 adults raised in two entirely different lifestyles, trying our hardest to raise children in a completely different world then what we had .I recently had to stop in my tracks during a conversation with my family, after quoting my mothers favorite quote ‘ back in my day’ and realized . The world has truly changed so much that I do not even know where i have been during the change. To me this world just makes me shake my head ! I pray for my family daily and our future generations !!!

The green Ribbon

I thought of having a blog to let out my thoughts and hear insight , no judgement no rudeness. So I hope I found a safe home

I am not a therapist type person, I want to feel like i am not alone and not crazy feeling stressed or overwhelmed with life. And to help others who sometimes feel lost .

This august will be 1 year of my mothers passing and tomorrow is her birthday. 46 yrs old

Her life and death hit my heart , not so much of losing her because I knew she was lost and did not want to be in pain any longer but it has shown me a life I don’t want to live.

Depressed , lost , lonely and allowing fear and senseless worries to control me.

Often our mind is our worse enemy and fear controls our life and we don’t fully live.

I am not one to claim depression . I have ups and downs but lately I have realized that I allow one moment w emotions to control the rest of my day and it affects the house and I am perceived by others as unhappy which is not so.

I need a way to control emotion, as I speak to others I find I am not alone and  that feeling accompanied by advice is comforting.

Worrying

I never realized how much I worry about the most ridiculous things until I grew up , and I do not mean turning 18. I mean growing up mentally. realizing life is not lollipops and gum drops.

I can be having a normal ordinary healthy day and for some reason start to feel some kind of way and then bam’ ! the panic mode comes in. It does not even start with a important legit concern.

My worst is relationship issues

For what ever reason, my mind will scramble on a rough day and I will drive myself nuts over did I make a mistake, questioning so much but knowing and feeling secure the next minute. I truly feel I need something of a sabbatical and I think I may take it .

I know how my heart feels and I am secure of what I want . I love my children and my husband and what we are creating but for some reason some times i don’t want

to call it a doubt because heart fully i do not feel a doubt of any kind and i get so frustrated when my mind starts to behave in such a way

Why do we go through this ??

 

 

The thoughts ……….Your mind…. (1)

The thoughts that run through our mind are insane at times. We may find ourselves at the end of the day or even middle in a PITT. No one would know and we seek no one for help.

We question why something occurred , why we acted or reacted in a way, and doubt almost everything we do. Whether we show it or not . Our mind is our worse enemy. Even when we clearly know the answer.

The wise men and women have said , when make a mistake or receive a negative outcome. To trace your steps that led there to learn from it.

I feel we should trace our steps of the positive outcomes and learn from that . Not focus on the negative to learn from. You did right so you know you can again.

I went through life thinking no one else has the moments or no one else had experienced the same event. I’d look at others and wish for their life, as they smile .

Then as I grew up I realized every home had and has BS. they just don’t broadcast it. I grew up in a life style of 2000 generation Cheers ! not only everyone knew your name but also your dirty laundry. As I grew older I grew wiser or I would say Matured *. I also met new people such as my husband who grew up in a different world and learned  there is not just one way of doing something.

Keep things private, be careful who you open up to but also just know somethings are meant to be applied to the personal title.. But don’t feel alone because we are all living in the same world and all have a history.

Do not drive your self crazy over every event in life, because it is not your Life , it is just a moment in it . Breathe and take your next turn and start with a new emotion.